All posts in the month of July 2015.

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Waking Up to Hitting Bottom

July 31, 2015 | Written by:

The a-ha moment that almost made me throw up

Dr. Brown redefines any number of things in “Addiction Is the Symptom.” Like hitting bottom. You don’t have to be living in a dumpster with a bottle of cheap vodka clutched to your chest to be living there. I was there. I had been there for most of my life. And I didn’t even know it. Continue

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Are You Emotionally Independent?

July 27, 2015 | Written by:

Is your mind your own? The yes/no test is a simple way to find out

We all like to think of ourselves as independent adults with minds of our own. But most of us aren’t as independent as we think. We’re emotionally dependent on—also known as addicted to—all kinds of things, including the approval of others. The yes/no test is a good way to gauge where you are on this. Continue

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Identify with Your True Self

July 22, 2015 | Written by:

As opposed to all the crap piled on top of you

Self-identification is a powerful thing. Because the mind is a powerful thing. Whatever you attach to “I am” can become self-fulfilling. So what are the consequences of saying, over and over, forever and ever, “My name is [your name here], and I’m an alcoholic” (or whatever)? This is a guest post at Sobriety Collective. Continue


Alcohol Is a Really Serious Drug

July 16, 2015 | Written by:

Drinking your drug isn’t any better than smoking or shooting it

Here’s a real pet peeve of Dr. Brown’s: the phrase “alcohol and drugs.” Alcohol is, in fact, a serious drug. Yet alcoholism is segregated from other addictive behaviors in our language, both formally and informally. Arguably a convenient oversight.

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Fence-sitters Anonymous

July 09, 2015 | Written by:

Dr. Brown’s step method isn’t hard. The hard part is the fear of doing it

As I worked on “Addiction Is the Symptom” with Dr. Brown, I became increasingly interested in undertaking her therapeutic process. I was already gaining new clarity about myself and my relationships. “Wow,” I thought. “What if I actually did the step work?” And then I just kept thinking, not doing. Emerson said it: “Do the thing you fear, and the death of fear is certain.” Continue

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Gay Marriage: A Fine Blow to a Soul-Killing Institution

July 03, 2015 | Written by:

The Supremes: Take that, compulsory heterosexuality!

Most of us live or have lived in the vice grip of ideas, principles, and institutions imposed on us by others. Compulsory heterosexuality is one such crappy institution that’s done a lot of harm. Now it’s going to be a little harder to control people’s minds, hearts, and bodies in this particularly deep, painful way. Which is healthier for everyone. Continue